Dating after divorce in your 40s
The search is a kind of journey, and along the way you tend to learn a few things about yourself, and about the society we live in. Everyone knows lots of fabulous single women in their 40s …but can’t think of any equally fabulous single men the same age.
This is one of life’s big mysteries but sometimes I think the key is identifying the right places to look. When you’re over 40, you’re usually pretty comfortable in your own skin You know what you like, and what you don’t.
Perhaps the benefit of not haemorrhaging energy into family stresses?
When you see them sitting next to women in their late 20s and 30s you can’t see a significant age difference. You can decide you don’t want children Whether you planned for this or not, there is something liberating about taking baby-making off the table.
I just have to save my ladies some time and tell the unvarnished truth.
It is a truth universally acknowledged that a single, attractive, heterosexual woman over the age of 40 must be in need of a man.
Elizabeth Gilbert, the author of , that she loved her nieces and nephews but did not want children of her own.
That decision can be pretty liberating – especially when you’re dating in your 40s: There’s no biological clock ticking away, which can put pressure on new relationships. You don’t have to limit yourself to men in your age group Not to feed the cougar cliché, but by the time you reach 40, the social stigma of dating younger men is so passé.
Related links Where are the (normal) single men hiding?Maybe you would prefer to hang out at cafes, museums, film festivals and art galleries.And maybe that’s where the cool 40-something men are hanging out, too. A lot of single 40-something females look and feel fantastic They do Pilates and yoga, they’re energetic, they take care of their skin and are into healthy eating.Children are not for everyone, but there’s a lot of social pressure on women to procreate.Sometimes I wonder if we convince ourselves we want children without really examining it.